Fresh perspective

You know, I used to think that if I explain my reasoning to someone, or if they explain their reasoning to me nicely, we would come to see each other's point of view. But the truth is.....it doesn't happen this way. Sometimes, I'm really surprised by my lack of understanding and also secretly complain in my heart that people don't really understand me. But of course, I realise that that is to be expected. You see, we all have a different set of values, experiences and our own unique way of perceiving things. How can a human being fully understand another? Only God can do that. We can only understand people based on our own experiences, our own perception coupled with things like compassion or empathy. But even if you put me through another person's experience, I would still not fully understand that person's point of view because we go into that situation with our own personality and our own pre-defined assumptions. So at most, I can empathsize, sympathize and understand to a certain degree. But to understand fully.....I think it's quite impossible.

If people say they understand me, I'll look at them with new eyes. Either a. they truly do - which means they have achieved something I've been trying to do for the past 21 years...congrats or b. they think they do - probably they meant it as in they understood the part of me I shown them or c. they are lying. Even I don't understand myself sometimes, so I actually don't really expect anyone to fully understand me. I don't understand people at times too, it actually made me wonder if there's anything wrong with me. But I later just attribute it to the fact that we all see the world with different sets of eyes at different angles anyway.

We all want to be understood....but nobody can fully understand us. So what's left? I think I'll just take the partial understanding offered by humans and leave the full understanding to God.